Frequently Asked Questions

What is the main focus of your relationship coaching services?

My primary focus is to assist couples in accessing their innate emotional honesty, developing new communication skills, and repairing quickly after ruptures in their relationship. Ultimately, my aim is to help couples establish deeper emotional connections and achieve a harmonious, satisfying relationship.

Are You Taking New Clients?

Yes, there are immediate openings available for both Guided Sessions and Couples Intensives. Ready to begin our work together? Visit the Offerings page for information and to start your application.

How do your coaching sessions work?

I conduct virtual one-on-one coaching sessions that last either 60 or 90 minutes each. These sessions occur once a week over a period of three- six months. This structured format allows for in-depth exploration and growth within your relationship.

What outcomes can we expect from your coaching program?

By the end of our time together, you can expect improved communication, enhanced emotional intimacy, and a more satisfying, connected relationship. You'll also find that you argue less, and when disagreements do arise, they become more productive and constructive.

Who Do You Work With?

I work with a wide range of individuals and couples. But they all have something in common: they are wholeness seekers who crave more depth in their lives and relationships. 

I am a good fit for couples and individuals who: 

• Have an open-mindedness toward self development and self-reflection

• Have a growth mindset

• Have the desire to create win-win dynamics (vs a commitment zero-sum game dynamic)

• Are willing to be emotionally honest, vulnerable, and deeply seen

For clients who have untreated Trauma (PTSD, C-PTSD) or active addiction I require that they work with an individual therapist either as a prerequisite to our work and/or in conjunction with our work.

what can we unpack together?

We can address a wide range of issues, including communication problems, trust issues, infidelity, sexual difficulties, parenting disagreements, financial conflicts, and more.

are sessions in person or via zoom?

All sessions are remote via Zoom.

WHAT HOURS DO YOU WORK? CAN WE MEET ON EVENINGS AND WEEKENDS?

I have regular availability for 60 and 90 minute sessions Monday-Thursday, 8am-3pm MST, and a waitlist for late afternoon or evening sessions (openings may become available in early 2024). To be added to the evening waitlist please email me at lesley@lesleyglenner.com

Weekend sessions are only available through the Whole Relationships or Whole Parenting intensives.

Are You A Psychotherapist/ Licensed Therapist?

I am not. I have a masters degree in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology and I am a trained (formerly registered) psychotherapist and worked in that capacity from 2011-2020. While I am ever grateful for the expertise and experience that path offered me, working as a psychotherapist was limiting. The coaching model I now offer allows us more freedom and flexibility in our approach to wholeness. Our sessions can be more expeditious, more honest and direct, and can catalyze faster, more sustainable progress.

There are instances where I would strongly recommend a couple or individual work with a clinical mental health practitioner/ psychotherapist. Those instances include but are not limited to: diagnosed or suspected personality disorders, untreated PTSD that causes severe dysregulation, clinical mood disorders (ie. depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder etc). that interfere with daily functioning, suicidal ideation, active/ unmanaged disordered eating, active addictions, etc.

What Is Relationship Coaching?

Relationship coaching is a holistic approach to couples work that is informed by my decade of experience as couples therapist but utilizes a more directive, dynamic and results-driven coaching model. As a trained (formerly licensed) psychotherapist, I bring a couples therapy eye to your relationship. I track attachment styles, relational toxins and corrosive habits, regulation and co-regulation, tone, non-verbal communication, old relationship wounds, and more. But I am acting as a guide and coach. From a coaching perspective, I support you in examining your relationship, developing honest and healthy communication skills, and creating a partnership that honors both individuals. As a guide, I help you develop a foundation for healthy relationships by offering tools, insights, support, and the guidance in practicing the skills you need to find (or re-find) harmony within your relationship. I like to tell my clients that the three of us are rolling up our sleeves and working shoulder-to-shoulder on your relationship. The process is deeply therapeutic and transformative.

how will we know if couples work is right for us?

If your relationship feels unsatisfying, stagnant, frustrating or not enlivening then couples work is right for you. Mature communication is a learned skill – one that most of us were never taught. For that reason, couples work is helpful for nearly any couple. 

If you are struggling with communication, conflict, or other relationship issues, couples work is right for you. If you are experiencing other difficulties in your relationship and are willing to work on them together, you can also benefit from couples work. 

No matter what, good chemistry is critical. When you apply for an intensive or guided session, you’ll be invited to  book a connection call to ask questions, share your goals, and make sure we’ll make a great team.

Will You Call Us Out/hold us accountable? 

Sure, I’ll call you out. But I prefer to call you in. It is my job to support you in bringing your best self to your relationship and hold you accountable when you fall short – and that’s a role I take seriously! I will offer feedback, redirection, facilitation, and guidance to both partners. As I get to know you and your relationship, I will offer real-time suggestions and tell you what I am thinking and seeing. I will not just bear witness to your relationship, I will support you from inside the relationship dynamic.

My role is a unique one, its unlikely that there is anyone in your life who will hold you and your relationship with such care while you bear the most real, raw and vulnerable aspect of your dynamic. I will hold you at your best while you are at your worst and together we will shift the dynamic.

Can We See You Individually And Together?

Yes. Your relationship is my client, so I can work with both parties individually toward the common goals. (This is one of the benefits of the coaching model). Often it's helpful for both partners to attend sessions together even when the focus is just on one partner, but at other times we can be more productive meeting separately/privately in order to really hone in a situation or dynamic without the other partner present.

How Do You Deal With Infidelity?

Infidelity is a complex topic. Each couple defines infidelity/ fidelity differently, and is impacted in highly personal ways. There is no one-size-fits all answer for working through infidelity, but what I can say is that we will address infidelity with care, curiosity, and respect for all parties involved. When infidelity is an issue, I often recommend Esther Perel’s book “The State of Affairs” as pre-homework. I also meet with both parties separately to get the full picture before attempting to go though the details together.

How Long Does It Take To See Changes?

Every couple comes with a unique set of needs and goals, ranging wildly in severity and complexity. So naturally, each couple will have a different timeline on their path to wholeness. Other key factors can also determine how long our journey will be: Are you ready to work? Are you able to meet regularly and do the homework/practice items? Is there resistance? Are there outside factors in the way? 

If you show up ready to get honest, open up, and do the work, most couples will see initial results within one month. For lasting change, I recommend taking on the 3-month Whole Relationships intensive, which builds a strong foundation for healthy communication and a healing partnership. Couples work can continue 9-12 months or longer for a deeply transformative experience.

How Often Will We Need To Attend Sessions? Does It Have To Be Weekly?

Frequency depends on your schedule and availability, as well as my recommendation. In general, sessions are held once a week or every other week. If you have special circumstances we will work together to find a mutually agreeable pace and frequency. For the first month it's best to come weekly, as this will expedite the “getting to know you” process so we can get into the deeper work.

What Are Your Fees?

See Offerings page for details.

are sessions Covered By Insurance? Do You Provide A Superbill?

No, I do not bill insurance or provide a superbill. While I am a trained psychotherapist, I am not practicing as a therapist, I am operating as a coach and cannot/ do not provide a diagnosis or treatment codes.

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