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Emotional Honesty for Families Getting beyond our defenses, vulnerabilities, and insecurities   Emotional Honesty: A critical skill for healthy relationships How often are you [...]

Even if you’re familiar with the term “Attachment,” it’s probably worth revisiting.  Are we on the same page about attachment? Would it shock you to know that as a therapist it matters not to me [...]

  While becoming a parent may be one of the most natural things in the world, there are many aspects of parenting today that don’t come naturally at all. Caring for infants and children [...]

We live in an increasingly polarized world, filled with decoherence and drama. We live in a wonderful and beautifully complex world with myriad opportunities for exquisite resonance, deeply [...]

Any human’s journey through the passage of time can be seen as “fellow travelling.” While we each travel through life –from birth to death — ultimately on our own, we also meet and [...]

    The question of whether practicing attunement is a  luxury — or even a possibility — during a pandemic is a living question.  It has become something of a kōan for me. [...]

Below is my raw, unedited journal entry that I wrote to help me process the feelings that came up for me during my son’s first day of remote learning. At the time, the feelings were ungrounded, [...]

  Family dynamics often bring alive The Drama Triangle, a social model used to analyze conflict in psychotherapy. As the name “triangle” indicates,  three roles are involved — the villain [...]

On Reenacting the Past  When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. [...]

On Love, Belonging, and Attachment. The lens of attachment therapy offers up a timeless wisdom—that every person wants to love, to be loved and to belong. That we are injured in relationship and [...]