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A silver lining of “the great pause”? We can connect at a distance. The past year plus of zoom life has a silver lining: It taught us that it’s at least somewhat possible to connect at a [...]

Why simply “being vulnerable” is not the only goal. We’ve heard much about “vulnerability” and ‘authenticity” in the past few years. And,on the path of personal growth and development need to [...]

Skillful feedback helps parenting partners unite.  In 2012, I wrote an article called How to Give Skillful Feedback for a popular online journal. Now, parenting in the 2021 post-pandemic world, I [...]

Judgement versus discernment Finding the truth in observations of self and partner Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do if you catch yourself judging or being judged, especially if you consider [...]

Debunking the myth of mothering As a mother, you may be falsely assured that your maternal or natural mothering instincts will “kick in”, that you “are made for this”. This may be said in an [...]

Emotional Honesty for Families Getting beyond our defenses, vulnerabilities, and insecurities   Emotional Honesty: A critical skill for healthy relationships How often are you [...]

Even if you’re familiar with the term “Attachment,” it’s probably worth revisiting.  Are we on the same page about attachment? Would it shock you to know that as a therapist it matters not to me [...]

  While becoming a parent may be one of the most natural things in the world, there are many aspects of parenting today that don’t come naturally at all. Caring for infants and children [...]

We live in an increasingly polarized world, filled with decoherence and drama. We live in a wonderful and beautifully complex world with myriad opportunities for exquisite resonance, deeply [...]

Any human’s journey through the passage of time can be seen as “fellow travelling.” While we each travel through life –from birth to death — ultimately on our own, we also meet and [...]

    The question of whether practicing attunement is a  luxury — or even a possibility — during a pandemic is a living question.  It has become something of a kōan for me. [...]

Below is my raw, unedited journal entry that I wrote to help me process the feelings that came up for me during my son’s first day of remote learning. At the time, the feelings were ungrounded, [...]

  Family dynamics often bring alive The Drama Triangle, a social model used to analyze conflict in psychotherapy. As the name “triangle” indicates,  three roles are involved — the villain [...]

On Reenacting the Past  When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. [...]

On Love, Belonging, and Attachment. The lens of attachment therapy offers up a timeless wisdom—that every person wants to love, to be loved and to belong. That we are injured in relationship and [...]