While becoming a parent may be one of the most natural things in the world, there are many aspects of parenting today that don’t come naturally at all. Caring for infants and children [...]
We live in an increasingly polarized world, filled with decoherence and drama. We live in a wonderful and beautifully complex world with myriad opportunities for exquisite resonance, deeply [...]
Any human’s journey through the passage of time can be seen as “fellow travelling.” While we each travel through life –from birth to death — ultimately on our own, we also meet and [...]
The question of whether practicing attunement is a luxury — or even a possibility — during a pandemic is a living question. It has become something of a kōan for me. [...]
Below is my raw, unedited journal entry that I wrote to help me process the feelings that came up for me during my son’s first day of remote learning. At the time, the feelings were ungrounded, [...]
Family dynamics often bring alive The Drama Triangle, a social model used to analyze conflict in psychotherapy. As the name “triangle” indicates, three roles are involved — the villain [...]
On Reenacting the Past When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. [...]
On Love, Belonging, and Attachment. The lens of attachment therapy offers up a timeless wisdom—that every person wants to love, to be loved and to belong. That we are injured in relationship and [...]
You probably have developed your own visioning processes over the years. We encourage you, as you reflect on the past decade, to consider this: Nowhere in the course of modern life are we given [...]
THE DRAMA TRIANGLE Is it “take your unfinished business to work” day again? Have you ever noticed how someone’s unfinished personal business can follow that person to work? While some of us [...]
“We all in some way will come to terms with our lives. And the beauty and the sorrow in our own journey.” – Cheryl Strayed Need some accountability, partner? A lot of practitioners come to [...]
“When we communicate feelings, we are vulnerable, and people around us are not always well-trained and sensitive to listen to feelings without taking them personally or explaining them away [...]
Providing a Safe Container for Holistic Practitioners In psychotherapy, the term “safe container” refers to an environment where individuals or group members can feel safe to be themselves and [...]
Its 2:15 on a Thursday afternoon, we take our seats in a small office in central Boulder. The room is bright, clean and the sun pours in through the west-facing windows. Someone draws the shades [...]
Have you ever noticed that when someone holds space for you to speak without giving you advice, you feel more heard? When the listener just listens we feel seen, known- that’s the power of [...]
