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Relational Evasion and Emotional Opacity When I engage with families and couples as a therapist, I always emphasize the importance of emotional honesty and I’ve become accustomed to a few [...]

Our relationship with our partner is central to our lives—that’s why it is especially painful when we find ourselves disagreeing with our partners, drifting apart [...]

PART III: The Ingredients of APOLOGY Throughout my life, I’ve come to value and cherish the sheer diversity and richness of individuals—I would say that there is nothing more amazing and [...]

PART II: The Ingredients of VALIDATION As I have continued to work with human relationships—both as a couples therapist and in my personal life—the importance of our differences, all the rich, [...]

PART I: The Ingredients of RUPTURE + REPAIR Relationships make the world go round. Honestly, they do! I have dedicated my life to working in the human realm, and I’ve found that relationships are [...]

A silver lining of “the great pause”? We can connect at a distance. The past year plus of zoom life has a silver lining: It taught us that it’s at least somewhat possible to connect at a [...]

Why simply “being vulnerable” is not the only goal. We’ve heard much about “vulnerability” and ‘authenticity” in the past few years. And,on the path of personal growth and development need to [...]

Skillful feedback helps parenting partners unite.  In 2012, I wrote an article called How to Give Skillful Feedback for a popular online journal. Now, parenting in the 2021 post-pandemic world, I [...]

Judgement versus discernment Finding the truth in observations of self and partner Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do if you catch yourself judging or being judged, especially if you consider [...]

Debunking the myth of mothering As a mother, you may be falsely assured that your maternal or natural mothering instincts will “kick in”, that you “are made for this”. This may be said in an [...]